Non gender therapy section and discussions

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Non Gender romanceual therapy section and discussion



This section is for those who are frustrated that there always has to be a 'end point' for who you are, what you are and your romanceual identity, for some there is no final end point, in that some are always growing and expanding and changing.

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One of the things that frustrates me about the LGBTQ community, is that just like in the Hetero community, there always has to be a 'end point', in that either you're this or you're that.

But many people don't fit so neatly into being either this or that.

And a lot of that dynamic can and does take place within the mind.

Example, if some guy feels like being more relaxed, gentle and kind, it doesn't mean he rushed to put on a dress...that dynamic can take place within the mind without any outer indication of such.

Or like when you go to a gay site, it's always either your top or bottom, either your this type of gay, or that type of gay, either you're masc or fem, and so forth, again, this you're one thing and one thing only end game really does annoy me and turns me off.

What if you're just lonely?...what's that called?

What if you're a male, in body form, but just lonely, and don't mind another male hugging you, just to let you know you're 'OK' in their book, what's that called?

To me the LGBTQ community can be just as wired shut and close minded as the Hetero community they so much complain about.

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To me, romanceuality or gender roles really only matters when planning on starting a family, ye, then roles do matter, but many people are single, no small feet's, and always alone, what identity are they suppose to have?

I mean if single and all alone, what does it matter whether you're a male or female, you're alone, as such you're 'you', when alone.

So when I hear these older pudgy Elmer Fud looking conservative radio hosts tell people 'You're a male, and you can't change that'.

I'm like but what does that really mean?
Being a male only matters if in a traditional male/female relationship with a family, but if all alone, isolated from others, than what does it mean to be a male?...it doesn't mean anything.

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Join this group, if the above and what's posted below is something you can relate to

If tired of being hemmed up or off, and told you can only be one thing all of the time, than join this new group to express all of who you are..

mewe.com/join/transyouaneverendingcircleofself

It's called 'Trans-you', meaning we're all basically a circle of everything, but do to roles, society, norms, titles, religion, this and that, most of us get designated by others, and told who and what we are before we even know who and or what we are.

Now that's fine for those that works for, but for many it is not.

I mean if born into some poor village in India or Honduras or some trailer park in West Virginia, who wants to be 'told' that your identity is limited to where you were born?, or what place born in?

Or if a human being, then told you're 'black', well what is that?, 'black' is not a scientific term, it's a social term used to lump people of certain biological ancestry all into one big generic bucket...

More on what the term 'black' means to some...twylightzone.boards.net/thread/75/black-void-tribe-nation-identity?page=1 (will change how you view self and or others who are classified as such)

And or if told you're 'white', well again that's a social designation with either positive or negative connitations attached to it that some may embrace, or reject.

Or male, or female, well what are gender roles outside of say marriage and raising a family?

If alone and single what does it mean to be a male or female?...what does it matter?

Does it feel different to be lonely as a male than as a female?, or is lonely just lonely whether a human or a whale or a dog?

You're a male, you're told you must be tough, society expects you to be tough and mean all of the time, but why?
Sure, that role served a purpose centuries ago, when men had to fight other mean with spears and arrows to defend territory, but in this day and age, why do males have to still be tough?

Don't get me wrong, there's always a time to be tough, but there's also a time to be nimble, women are generally allowed more physical and emotional range than are males, in that a female can be in the military, dressed like her male soldiers, but then come 7 pm, that female can take of boots, uniform and dress up in a romancey dress and heals for some much needed night life.

Talk about cross dressing or cross range, and or freedom of expression, where as a male is just expected to be and look like a male 100% of the time, and if not people automatically think they're gay or some other slur...is that fair?

A woman can wear pants, boots, or a dress and heals, yet no one considers them Lesbian?...again is that fair?

No, it's not.

Why can't males have that same kind of 'range' without their romanceual orientation getting dragged into the discussion?, cause that's how we've all been conditioned, that's why.

Anyways, if interested in joining group where allowed to be 'all you can be' (within sanity of course), than check out the link.

It's a social media platform 'mewe', which was designed to counter the oppressive spying ways of FB, and it's growing fast.

Face book quickly degrading into some over bearing, shadow banning, censoring ugly step Witch, and people are getting sick of having their thoughts so controlled and monitored by others on that platform.

This platform here is 'open' also, but I realize not set up in a way most are use to, so give 'mewe' a try, follow link above and take a look.

Much more to follow.

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The Cage Show asked, 'Outside of marriage, and or raising small feet's, what roles do or does gender actually mean or have in single peoples lives?



I mean not everyone is going to get married, not everyone can or plans on having small feet's, so to such types, what role does actual biological gender even play in their lives?

Stiff nosed conservative types really need to listen to this episode to expand their understanding of life outside of talk radio.

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No comment right now, just view and watch and let your own bias and or understanding take you wherever

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When people think being gay ect, is a sin, than even though they may be attracted to you, they treat you as if you're a 'sin' or temptation..what's known as #downlow, in urban areas...avoid anyone who simply sees you as their sinful outlet...

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Seems the only time anyone, even if ugly, can really feel beautiful, whole and desired to, is when being made love to by another who's passionate about you in that exact moment.

Bed passion is different than out of bed passion, in that in bed, nature, base emotions and feelings tend to take over, has less to do with love and more to do with flesh, to the giver and receiver.

romance, is actually a very selfish endeavor on all parties involved.

That being said, because it's such a self absorbed exercise, is what makes it so wonderful in the moment, whether with another or with imagined 'other'.

It's a physical high like no other, the most self absorbed thing one can engage in while alive.

There is no moral to this lesson or post.

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When in church, years ago, I remember Pastors would always refer to 'romance' as being a 'gift from god', yadda yadda yadda, nah, to me it's just freagin nature, well I guess it could be a gift, but I think it's both a gift and a carrot to get species to reproduce, particulalry humans.

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Dec 13, 2021 16:48:28 GMT Admin said:

When in church, years ago, I remember Pastors would always refer to 'romance' as being a 'gift from god', yadda yadda yadda, nah, to me it's just freagin nature, well I guess it could be a gift, but I think it's both a gift and a carrot to get species to reproduce, particulalry humans.

Well obviously some humans have taken that gift and gone to far with it, like women who live in the ghetto and hood, having all sorts of babies who then grow up to commit some of the most violent, senseless crimes imagined, I mean just pick up the paper, read the headlines, the crime reports, being committed by grown up babies, who's Mothers just layed around with anyone when young, who's mothers themselves never had a father and so terrible at finding a man