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Life after alcohol



There will be many posts on here about alcohol and it's effects, the good, ugly, evil and bizzar.

There is no message, just outcome, and effect.

Much more to follow...

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Life after alcohol

When you give up alcohol you'll be amazed at the people, conditions, you tolerated while drunk or drinking.

How many have entered your life, relationships began, were tolerated, do to alcohol in system.

How many opportunities squandered in past, appointments missed, skipped, do to alcohol in system.

Alcohol is not any ones friend, unless already accomplished.

Alcohol simply makes you feel content about being a no body, about where you live, and those you know.

But when the spell of alcohol wears off you wake up to a ugly reality you've created for yourself over the years, and there's no easy way out of 'the place'.

And is why, or where, many fail to stay off alcohol is cause when you wake up, in a place so ugly, and no immediate way out, will fall into a depression unless start drinking again.

To not drink means what?

To not drink away the ugly reality means you have to bear the pain of a failed life and your mortality.

Will it get better?

If a TV show or movie yes, but if not a movie script, than who knows.

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When you stop drinking it's like you wake up out of a 'coma'

When you stop drinking, (This applies to those who drink or drank daily when off work or on the weekends spent majority of free time being or getting drunk )

But when you stop drinking, it's like waking up out of a coma, a stupor, in that you go back to the place you were when you started, so if started drinking at age, say, 24, and stop drinking at age 35, when you stop drinking at age 35, it's like you're back to where you were when 24.

Not physically, but as far as mental development, not even though, more like emotional development.
Not sure if explaining right, all I can say is it's like waking up suddenly, and wondering where 'you' have been all those years.

It can be both sad and joyous at the same time.

Sad in that you're like 'Wow, all that time I wasted prioritizing getting drunk, instead of prioritizing a fulfilling career, or prioritizing a relationship or prioritizing this or that, the list can be long or short, but either way you realize how much time you've wasted being side tracked by the effects of alcohol.

But it can be joyous in that it's kind of like being given a second chance, a rebirth, particularly if lucky enough to have made it through all those years of drinking without any major inncident as in D.U.I, or getting arrested at a club or bar, or hurting self in accident or getting some major alcohol related disease or illness, and so forth.

Me, myself, and looking back at my own drinking episode, a few things saved me from disaster.

1. I kept working out, always made it a habit to stay fit regardless of drinking.

2. Diet evolved, stopped eating a lot of red meat, cut powdered sugar out of life years ago, and the same with powdered sodium or salt, ate a ton of fruit and veggies..
In other words yes I drank daily after work, and on weekends, but at the same time was eating healthy, like no soft drinks and all.

I think, know, had I drank while eating like a slob, I'd have diabetes or a heart attack or some other drinking related illness....so I was lucky, I suppose, in that aspect.

But as far as socially, my drinking totally screwed that up, I think, maybe not, cause even before I started drinking I never really fit in socially anywhere, I've always been a misplaced soul, and when I do meet the right people, or a woman, their older and married, and same with males...everyone in the blue collar world taken, and owned by their own environment.

So that tends to leave someone like me feeling very isolated and alone.

And it's that feeling of isolation, and being alone, that made me start drinking in the first place, to hide that feeling, but sadly drinking didn't create any new relationships for me, not a one.

But drinking did bring out other more creative sides of self that in a way I'm glad did come out, for without those years of creativeness, none of this would be hear, all this writing and more would not ever have occurred.

The art, none of it, not that it matters, I mean it's not like I'm getting rich off of my creativity, like others do, but still, who knows, maybe another will get something out of it long after I'm gone.

And I'm to lazy to put it all into a book, like others would.

Anyways, this episode isn't over in that have only stopped drinking regularly for about 9 days now, but in last 10 years, I think I've only gone 9+ days without a drink maybe 3 times, if that.

U think the longest was maybe 2 weeks, so we'll see.

Later, I'll explain what made me stop drinking this time.

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Alcohol, the Seductive trap



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Alcohol, the Seductive Trap, more readings about those addicted to alcohol and what it's like.

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Well I still drink, sad to say, but here's a side note

At least those who do drugs lose weight, where as those who drink gain weight, at least when drinking beer, not sure if just drinking liquor effects weight either way.

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The scariest thing about coming off of alcohol or I suppose any type of addictive substance, is at first it feels like you have no place to hide



Alcohol/drugs, becomes like a security blanket, and emotional security blanket, where you can just hide, numb yourself to the realities of the world, It's fine when working as it should, I suppose.
But sooner or later, either do to health, a mishap, fill in the blank, sooner or later that blanket is no longer there.

Some die with the substance blanket on I suppose, and sometimes I wonder if going to die, is it better to die sober and aware or drunk as a moe hoe and not caring a peep about anything.

Either way, death is ugly.

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right now in a very yukky mood, body feels yukky, which effects my mood and outlook, trying to give up drinking for a while, can't even if I wanted to cause body has just had enough.

I think body can handle liquor when healthy, but when trying to fight of a cold or fill in the blank of 100 other things that ails people, I think then body treats liquor like poison.

Alcohol is poison, if not for the livers ability to screen it, but if liver preoccupied fighting of something else, than body just says

'No way, and not now, we can't both fight of an infection, and then deal with filtering alcohol out of your system', says your body, says any ones body.


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It's usually the 3 or 5 day that you, if can break the spell of alcohol, that you finally start feeling much better and asking self

'Gee, why did I ever drink to begin with'.

But then all it takes is one lonely night, one bad day, one day where you have no one to talk to except beer...and that's how people relapse, cause for some beer is all there is to fill that void.

I have to work tomorrow and just feel so inward, nothing 'out there' in the slightest concerns me whatsoever.

Didn't even go shopping for T-day grocers, will be spending it alone, as I usually do.

These new generation type neighbors could give a squat if you live, die, eat alone, they're just different type of people, lack the same soul as the older generation.

You can live next to someone for 5 years now, and never a hello, never a card, nothing, I really hate that my older neighbors all left.

It's just so cold here now, at least if you're single.

I'm one of the few that just lives alone, most others live in bundles since rent so high.

I like the piece and quiet though.

Oh well, time to get on with what feels like nothingness.

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Starting to feel a bit better now, energy coming back, body aches going away

The last time I drank hard was last Friday, no last Saturday night, and today's Friday, so it's been 6 days since drank, well a few sips on Sunday, but body wasn't having it at all, now I do feel better.

I think my body had just had enough, and thank god I listened, cause it's no fun thinking that you're sick, or wondering if 'this time', you've pushed your body past it's natural healing threshold, cause the thought of that will make any reasonable person 'stop', and think, and make adjustments to habits.

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When you first stop drinking, especially when coming off of a 'bad one' (night of a lot of beer where next day you're out of it), but those next few days aren't easy at all, your mind, your body, your outlook on life, everything just feels different.

Beer, alcohol, you can drink all day, it absorbs, but when not drinking at first, you don't know what to do with self, you try coffee, but you can't drink coffee like beer, water, milk, anything to substitute drinking beer all day, when off from work.

This time, I think I may have quit for good, only 'you' know when that moment arrives, and I think it has for me.
Scared myself last week with how stomach was acting, body aches, mindset, luckly already in decent shape so body able to recover, but many do not recover and quickly go down hill after such an occurrence.

I think everything should be OK, but did scare myself, immune goes first (I know I'm rambling), but immune goes first, start getting the sniffles, throat aches, then muscles aches, normally the things a strong immune fights off, but when system so overwhelmed with alcohol, body no longer able to mount defense against all the 1000's of foreign particles, bacteria, viruses, that bombard our bodies daily.

And with this next wave of Corona BS coming, I for sure need my immune system to be primed, healthy and ready to go.

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And another odd thing about going sober is getting your mind back.

Going from a mostly drunken mind, to a sober one, and wondering will you still be the same person?

I don't not like the person I become when drunk, I just don't like that I have to be drunk for that person to come out.
I welcome the drunk side of me to come out when sober, but don't want to have to drink to bring that colorful person out anymore.

Oh well, I'll keep updating on my progress, I lay down thoughts elsewhere as well though.

Time for some after work rest now.

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Losing weight is always a fun part about sobering up



Watching the 'beer weight' go away, is always the one visible fun part of sobering up, that constant layer of fat or chub that won't go away as long as drinking beer.

And watching face become more youthful looking as skin smoothens out.

That's the one measurable fun part about sobering up is watching your body transform.

Not that I'm fat to most, but to self, I can see the difference when I stop drinking...able to fit into jeans again, certain shorts, and so forth.
Face become even toned again, smoother, cause I guess when you drink a lot, the small capilary veins on surface of skin become damaged or something like that.

Bottom line, you stop drinking daily, health just gets better, period.

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Another good thing about being sober is this, when you say something, speak to another, you know you mean it, and that it's not just the alcohol doing the talking.

That really helps build your confidence up again, is knowing that even without alcohol you still have a personality.

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After now about 9 days of not drinking, I finally can see that chub around gut, and butt, going away.

Gut, butt than that's when the face starts to thin up. (sounds like a song lyric)

I bet internal organs happy as hell to that they can now focus on healing, repairing, distributing nutrients to where they should go instead of wasting all that time dealing with alcohol.

If I were just a weekend drinker, no big deal, but that was, is, my problem, if I start drinking I want to drink all the time I'm not at work, not just on the weekends.

As far as over all mood goes, still hard to tell.

Waking up in the mornings a bit easier, don't feel the need to linger in bed as long, and also more sustained energy throughout the day, not to mention the money I'm saving.

I mean if I averaged, when off work, 2 packs of beer a day, sometimes more, sometimes less, that's around $160.00 a month I'll be saving.

off 4 days, average spent is $10.00 on beer every off day, many times more though, yep, around 169 dollars saved a month, not to mention the other spending that occurs when go to corner stores, gas, ect.

Oh well, life still pretty much sucks though.. , I mean still not wealthy, still have to go to a job, still a zero social life, still this, still that...but maybe by not drinking at all, or in the future, so much, maybe I can engineer a better reality for self, we shall see.